Comfortability

Over the past two and a half months I’ve moved halfway across the country, started my first full time job, and learned so much about myself along the way. One of the things I’ve been learning is that I feel like I’m slipping into a state of comfortability.

It may seem strange to most that I am feeling comfortable given my current situation. I don’t imagine many people would feel very comfortable being thrown in to a completely new city, starting a new stage of life (just having graduated college), all while only knowing a handful of people who live close by. I think that most people would be a bit overwhelmed or need some time to adjust to this new environment, but I think this might be where I thrive the most. When you’re thrown into a completely new environment, there is always something new and exciting to do. A random encounter could turn into meeting one of your best friends or it could just turn into a great time with people you never see again. I love the excitement and adventure of a new city, so I’m really happy with that. What I’m not super happy with is this feeling of becoming to0 comfortable in life.

Once again, saying that I don’t want to be comfortable in life might sound strange to most people. Being comfortable is great! There is nothing I love more than wearing a comfy sweatshirt or sitting by a fire with a warm blanket and hot chocolate. That isn’t the type of comfortability I’m talking about though. What I’m talking about is comfortability in life. The type of comfortability that leads to a lack of drive and motivation.

Currently in my life, I’m making good money(for someone who just graduated college), I have a job that I like well enough, and it would be very easy to just sit back and let life happen. I could go to work every day and do the bare minimum. Come home after work and do nothing meaningful with my time. Make it through the work week just to enjoy the weekend. Then do it all over again the next week, over and over again. That is not at all how I want to live my life though, it’s too easy.

When you get too comfortable, it’s easy to let life pass you by. You start to forget about chasing the dreams and desires you once had. This idea of sitting back and just letting life happen, sounds miserable to me. I would much rather grab life by the balls and live the life I want to have, not the life that I happen to currently have.

Even though this is how I want to live my life, that’s not what I’m currently doing. I don’t feel like I have a fire under my ass to live that way, because things are easy, things are comfortable. I want to start a company. I want to be able to start investing in other companies. I want to travel more. I want to meet an amazing girl that I can share this amazing life with. Frankly, I want to make a lot of money (not just for the sake of having money, although I do really enjoy having money, but more so because I love the process of trying to make money. It’s like a game). I want to mentor and help other people that might be able to learn from the things I’ve learned. I want to have a written list of goals to achieve in the next ten years, but live like I’m trying to achieve them in the next six months.

There are so many things that I want to do in life, and I’ve realized I could be doing so much more to achieve these goals. So what’s stopping me from working harder towards my goals? I think it’s comfortability. Comfortability that has lead to a lack of drive and passion for the things I’m doing or want to do. So now, the question is, what am I going to do about it?

I’m going to make myself uncomfortable. I’m going to push myself to become a better version of myself, instead of just letting life pass by. Here are a few of the things that I’m going to start doing to make that happen:

These are just a few things I want to commit to doing to get out of my comfortability. There are more I will end up doing, but this is what I have for now. I think it’s going to be a great start towards becoming more uncomfortable once again.

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